If you want to infatuate your lover then celebrate them. Infatuation exists when we have no reason to love other than love itself and we can act in spontaneous and even irrational ways. Now that is a love worth having!

In my model of the 5C’s to successful relationships the last C is perhaps the lynchpin (central and cohesive connector). Celebration is the clearest way to demonstrate to another that they are special to us.

I look for things in my husband that make him unique and that he finds important and special in his life. This is where I concentrate my celebration. For example, he likes baseball. He really likes it. So I think of ways to integrate baseball into our life that will be fun and he will enjoy. I am planning to buy seasons tickets to our local team and also have an extra special surprise for him in the future (that I of course cannot disclose…smile).

Because I involve myself in something that is important to him he is very supportive of me as well. Now I do not want to represent this as a “head” taking over for “heart”. There must be heart in it or it is not authentic and we as humans have a built in detection system for when someone is not sincere. And it is not an exchange system either. We do not do it so that we get some aspect of ourselves celebrated. It is not an obligation, it is a choice.

It is also not necessary that it be something physical (like my baseball example). It could be something more personal like a quirk, habit or perspective on the world. The important thing is that we are actively looking for ways to celebrate our intimate partner to let them know they are special and a priority in our lives. In this way we will continue to build the relationships we live to love in. Remember to create the life you love.