It is impossible for us to step out of the flow of life. We are living and this very fact ensures that we are part of the flow of life no matter how much we may have the mistaken impression to the contrary.
The issue is never are we in the flow; it can only ever be to what extent am I conscious and directing the flow, in my life? So if this is true the most important thing we can do in life is to become conscious and then direct the flow. To this end I have two exercises I like to do and would also recommend to you.
Exercise number one is connecting. I am not sure why but I have a strong connection to certain types of music and deepening my connection. Whether it is a song that reminds me of my husband (Only you by the Platters comes to mind) or the mystical music of  a teacher like Leonard Howell I find music helps connect me to myself. I call it the soulful connection (where mind and spirit meet). So in order to connect I listen to music that stirs me.
Exercise number two is directing. Once I am connected I then have the full power to direct the flow around me. I do this by closing my eyes and imagining the outcome as already manifest in my life. I allow myself to explore it fully in my minds eye. I create through a perfect vision of the outcome. As I explore I notice all of my feelings. I believe my feelings help to strengthen the energy and flow of my hearts desire. When I open my eyes I completely let go and let the universal laws do what they do best as I get on with my day. My job is done. I have set my intention. I let the universe unfold in the exact right and perfect way for me and so it does.