things over which we have choice
Around the globe we are leaving behind 2009 and beginning 2010. In Vancouver it will bring the Olympics and a party that has been planned for six years but for tonight it will simply be reviewing what has happened and hoping for what can happen next year. I believe that the most important aspect of…
It is said that nature abhors a vacuum and so now that we have done some housekeeping to end off our year we need to make sure we are open to the endless possibilities life provides us. I find one of the easiest ways to achieve openness is by meditation and so today I thought…
Sometimes inside we have multiple internal personas and I am not talking about having a disability either. Sometimes they help us but often they hurt us. You have heard the saying “we can be our own worst enemy” and this is what I am talking about today. The oppressor can fall into three archtypes I…
It may be beautiful but it is still dead leaves! What is it that you are still carrying around that you might be better off without in 2010? I am talking about stories. Old stories. Stories that are not serving you anymore. These are not stories of hope and success in your life, they are…
As surely as physics provides the basis to turn water into hydro-electric power, choice provides the basis for our transformation. The most interesting part of transformation to me is not what we become, nor even necessarily what we were before, it is the process of the transformation itself. The key word is “change” and I…
Today is December 26th and suddenly Christmas is over for another year. How is it that one day we can be peace on earth, goodwill towards men and full of joy and then suddenly it is over? Depending on our choice we fall somewhere on the line of embracing to ignoring Christmas. But why do…
How we communicate is every bit as important as what we are communicating. Too often we may choose to spend time on being clear in our message when in fact we need to spend equal amounts of time being considerate. How we act towards others will influence how others respond to us. Does it always…
The only reality which really matters to us is the one we create in our heads. How fitting then that we have complete choice to write and re-write our reality. What do I want? Is the most difficult question to answer in the world and yet we need to ask and answer it for ourselves…
If into every life a little rain must fall then part of it will be a torrential downpour of conflict. My definition of resolution is: the art of creating harmony from conflict. It is a given that there will be conflict in each relationship between any two people. The surprise, to me, is never that…
The first of my 5 C’s for building and maintaining a healthy relationship is Communication. Communication over distance has been particularly challenging for Pedro and I not to mention his first language is spanish and mine is english. But, as they say, love conquers all and we have worked to ensure good communications. And that…