Today I continue my journey with my husband in Barcelona. We were in the subway and witnessed a pick-pocket steal the wallet of a woman on the Metro. The husband of the woman who lost her wallet let the thief off the train without hassle and immediately called the police. How interesting he thought the answer to his dilemma lay in the power of another.
When do I (feel free to substitute yourself whenever you like in my articles…smile) give away my power by believing in another? When do I not take action in my own life but hope another will solve my problems? These are the difficult and yet important questions we need to answer for ourselves if we are truly to create a life worth loving.
I can tell you when I do it. It is always in one of two situations. The first is when I feel under stress and choose to be immobilized. I am not sure whether it is my lizard brain (the most primordial part of our now developed cerebrum) that tells me to freeze when I am under stress or it is simply easier to do it but I can tell you it is often the state I find myself in and when I say this, I really mean “choose to be in” (for we always have choice even when the lizard brain reacts we have the ability to think and respond). This is important to remember or we will start to live a life beyond our control, something I would not advise. So what happens next? I find the easiest way to “unfreeze” is to tell another and somehow the very act of telling starts my creative mind to solve what previously appeared as unsolvable. Once creation begins it creates a momentum to the solution.
The second is when I am afraid of the consequences. This state is even more of a challenge than the aforementioned “stress” because now along with my so called “lizard” brain is my evolved story telling capacity. I start to add details of what could happen and let me tell you that if you ever want to understand just how creative I can be then find me in this state and you will see I have some Oscar worthy story telling skills. So what is the path out of this quagmire? Again the answer lies in sharing with another. As soon as I begin to tell the story I see how unreal it is and suddenly my creative mind is at work on the solution.
So the only thing I really need to remember is that in all situations connecting to others will always connect me to my creative mind and in the end the answer always lies within as long as I do not cover it up with stress or fear. So that really brings me full circle and perhaps the couple in the subway were on the right path after all. Perhaps it was their way of telling the story and letting it go. I certainly hope so and it was a great reminder for me to take a moment and review my own perspective on this. Now that I have I know I am again today continuing to live a life I love to live and hope you are doing the same.