There are many aspects to being a loving person. It happens not just in our bedrooms but first in the great conceptual design of the universe, then in our brains and finally in our bodies. We embody love in three ways, the thoughts, the actions and the attractions.
We embody love in our thoughts by the way we construct our world view. Do we view the world as safe for us and others? If it is safe for us, do we then also ensure our thoughts make it safe for others?
The way we think and perhaps even talk about how to deal with criminals in society is one of the most revealing aspects of how safe we feel and what we believe is the fair and loving way to treat those who make mistakes. All of us make mistakes but most of us do not make mistakes on the scale that our society must intervene, set boundaries and pass judgement on our choices or actions. When society does do we choose punishment or rehabilitation? In Canada almost 95% of those who go to jail are released! If we do not prepare those who make mistakes to integrate back into our communities then we create and maintain dysfunctional communities. Our thoughts reveal our capacity for love.
The second way we demonstrate love is through our actions. In modern urban life an easy example of actions is our choices around driving in the city. There is a common, somewhat amusing, mostly bemusing advertisement with a female motorist yelling and swearing at other drivers. Her behaviour clearly indicates she is angry. The reality is that her display is simply a convenient outlet for other issues in her life she has long suppressed. She does not require higher insurance rates, she really needs to forgive herself and others and move on from her anger. Our actions on a day-to-day basis reveal the extent to which we love ourselves. The extent to which we love ourselves foretells our ability to love another. The way we treat others is what we really think we deserve. Our actions reveal our ability to love.
Finally, we demonstrate our love through our attractions. If we create attraction to people in our lives who challenge us (stimulate and titillate), castigate us(chastise, censure or criticize) or cremate us (reduce to ashes metaphorically) will determine the health of our physical expressions of love. And it is not just our intimate partners I am talking about although they are certainly the most important and influential people in our lives. It is an amalgam of the people we attract into our lives. Our attractions reveal the health of our love.
So today, I make a commitment to myself to examine the triangle of love in my life and allow the truth to set me free. I set my intention to act with love in thought, action and attraction. I send out a positive energy of love and it returns to me and so it is.